Let me make this perfectly clear. Rape is ANY kind of unwanted sexual behavior imposed on a person. Be they male or female.

Rape is about imposing power over the victim rather than sexual attraction, or sexual gratification. It is not because a woman was dressed a certain way. It is not because the victim was “asking for it.”

Rape is a crime. Period. No, means no. No one has the right to pressure, manipulate, coerce, or force another person to have sex. Especially if the victim is impaired to the point where they cannot give or refuse consent.

That all being said….What the hell, America? What the hell?

Bill Cosby. Woody Allen. Various Fraternity members. School teachers…both male and female.

What the hell is going on here?

According to Crisis Connection Inc . com:

  • 60% of male college students “indicated some likelihood of raping or using force in certain circumstances.”
  • Men in fraternities appear to engage in more non-physical coercion and use of drugs and alcohol as a sexual strategy than do independents.
  • Every 21 hours there is another rape on an American college campus.
  • 90% of all campus rapes occur under the influence of alcohol.
  • Men are more likely than women to assume that a woman who drinks alcohol on a date is a willing sex partner. 40% of men who think this way also believe it is acceptable to force sex on an intoxicated woman.
  • Alcohol use at the time of the attack was found to be one of the four strongest predictors of a college woman being raped.
  • 43% of college men admit using coercive behavior to have sex, including ignoring a woman’s protest; using physical aggression; and forcing intercourse; 15% acknowledged they had committed acquaintance rape; 11% acknowledged using physical restraint to force a woman to have sex.
  • College rape victims receive external physical injuries in over 47% of all rapes.
  • Of the college woman who are raped, only 25% describe it as rape.
  • Of the college women who are raped, only 10% report the rape.
  • College women are most vulnerable to rape during the first few weeks of the freshman and sophomore years.
  • One in twelve college-age men admit having fulfilled the prevailing definition of rape or attempted rape, yet virtually none of these men identify themselves as rapists.
  • 34% of completed rapes and 45% of attempted rapes take place on campus. Almost 60% of the completed campus rapes that take place on campus occur in the victim’s residence, 31% occur in another residence, and 10% occur in a fraternity.
  • 3/4 of off-campus rapes and 7/8 of on-campus rapes involved perpetrators who were known to the victims.
  • 78% of the men identified (as rapists) were an acquaintance, friend or boyfriend of the victims.
  • Most rapes occur on the weekend.

If that doesn’t make you want to keep your girl children home, I don’t know what would.

From 2001 until 2005 over 2500 teachers were disciplined for sexual misconduct.

Where is the disconnect here? I am not understanding it. When did it become ok to violate people? Because that is what has been going on for centuries. Out of 100 sexual assaults, only 40% are reported. Why? I wish I had the answer to that.

Why do we allow this to continue? To say that the abusers/rapists are sick individuals just isn’t an excuse. It doesn’t explain why every person who sexually abuses another is not held accountable for their actions. No matter of how wealthy the perpetrator, or impoverished the victim…..or vice versa.

I’m looking for some conversation here people. All of us know of someone who has either been sexually abused, or has had to fight someone off. What are your thoughts here?

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